How To Handle Positive Comments on Your Blog

I was visiting with a friend recently and he had a cook out with beers in hands and bratwursts on grill.

He is involved in the political life in his town and has strong opinions on many topics often not discussed in polite company.

You want to piss people off? Tell them your opinion on religion, money and politics, make sure they are different from your audience’s opinion and you got yourself a quick anti-fan.

Needless to say, my friend and I don’t see eye-to-eye on many of these issues. But since I was in his house, drinking his beer and eating his bratwurst, not to mention that he already knows my pov on these matters, I thought it best if I nodded politely while he delivered his diatribe to his captive audience.

All the nodding and politeness got me to drift-off and start thinking about the favorable comments and positive reinforcement we receive on our blogs every day.

So How Should We Handle Positive Comments on our Blog?

By saying thank you.

Say thank you but understand that your audience is visiting your cook out. When they are agreeing with you and offering their support in your view points they are being polite.

Sure, some might take the antagonistic stance, but those are few and far between and usually don’t become raving fans that frequent your blog anyways.

Hubris is Always Followed by Nemesis

In other words, praise blows-up your head and gives you pride, which is always followed by a fall. Pride is one of the 7 deadly sins, isn’t it? People forget that.

Did I just discuss religion? Oh boy.
  • Now lets see what type of favorable comments and positive reinforcement will you offer in the comments section that will inevitably cause my head to swell up?

Dino Dogan

Global Force for Badassery | Founder of Triberr | Refugee from Bosnia | Writer for Technorati | Speaker | Lousy Martial Artist | Pretty good singer/songwriter | Hi :-)

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  • http://www.experiate.net Paul Flanigan

    You should never let comments get to your head. Just because someone dropped by because they liked the content doesn’t mean they’ll come back tomorrow.

  • http://twitter.com/lavenderuses Patricia Millman

    Hi Dino

    Diatribe eh??!! Awhile since I’ve heard that LOL It doesn’t take long to learn who will be regular visitors and who just come over once in a while. And some people we just seem to click with. They’ll be around even when maybe they don’t always agree with what’s being expressed on our site.

    I enjoy your writing style and the topics are okay too…..can’t have you getting a swollen head now, with too much positivity in the comments 😉

    Patricia Perth Australia

  • http://www.hanelly.com hanelly

    It’s easy to get drunk on your own Kool Aid and think the world is in love with you. But really, they’re just smiling at you in public because you’ve got 6-year-old-boy style red Kool-Aid stains around your mouth. It’s repulsive and eventually, you’ll be the only one drinking your brand of Kool-Aid. Others will have lost their appetite. Be polite, stay humble, and stick to beer.

  • http://billdorman.wordpress.com Bill Dorman

    Don’t come over to my house, eat my food and be rude………..

    Yes, you might get one or two who want to pick at you but for the most part people will provide praise or acknowledgement. And it’s always good to be gracious for the praise. That makes everyone happy, right?

    Some of this is just common sense; it is amazing at times however how some people just don’t ‘get it’.

    Why can’t everyone be perfect like us, huh Dino?

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      LMAO…exactly Bill….why cant they be simply perfect like you and I lol

  • http://www.midnightinchicago.wordpress.com Elyse Bruce

    I have followed this adage for years now: Never buy into your own press. It keeps you humble; it keeps you level-headed. Appreciate people for who they are but remember that you are not the sum total of other people’s opinions about you. :-)

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Remember that you are not the sum total of other people’s opinions about you

      Loved that line…tweeted it :-)

      • http://billdorman.wordpress.com Bill Dorman

        I like that too; I need to hurry up and roll it out before Elyse copyrights it…………

  • http://twitter.com/StartYourNovel Start Your Novel

    “Thank you” always goes down well. It is my Zen weapon of choice. One that I often use against myself, to keep my ego from inflation.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Last night I went out to dinner with friends and we actually said grace. I never do that. But it was nice…being grateful for every precious moment with great friends and with great food is certainly something to be thankful for, regardless of which god you believe in.

      In my case, I thanked the Universe. Which I thought was very Zen of me :-)

      • http://www.thelasthonestguy.com The Last Honest Guy

        I just thank who ever bought the food. Often times that’s me! LOL

  • Eugene

    This was the greatest thing I have ever read!!!!!!!!! :)

    Honestly I like negative comments. It’s a great change of pace and provides for discussion. Maybe I should start pissing people off :)

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      If you’re not pissing somebody off you’re not doing anything worth doing.

  • http://urgentessays.co.uk/ custom essays

    very interesting) and i really need this. my blog is not always posiive. thanks for this post. amazing style and text))

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Tnx…my font size is big as compared to most blogs….its not as esthetically pleasing but it makes for an easier read.

  • http://www.thejackb.com/ The JackB

    It is a good point you make. I appreciate positive comments but I sometimes struggle a bit with them. I try to say thank you and add something more without sounding obnoxious.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hey Jack…I know just how you feel. I dont know if you noticed by I’ve removed my comment policy widget and placed a link to Triberr instead…and Im so glad I did. Because it was so hard to A) Answer every comment and B) Force value into conversation.

      Sometimes, those things are just not there and when you force them it comes off unnatural.

      So now, I answer comments where I can actually add something or have something to say :-)

      • http://live-your-love.com/ Brankica U

        I did the same yesterday, for the same reasons :) Can’t believe, lol. But I do find it hard to reply to all of them, not because it isn’t a priority, it is, but sometimes, I just can’t say anything.

  • http://www.newbielifeline.com Sheila Atwood

    Thank You Dino,

    This criteria has saved my marriage many times. I just keep my mouth shut and nod politely.

    Actually it is a magic formula. “You can be right by allowing the other person to be right.”

  • Leona Martin

    Dino,

    Oh yeah never discuss politics, money or religion…my golden rule!

    Whenever someone stops by and whatever their opinion is I at least make a comment to let them know I saw their post and well….

    Great post!

  • http://twitter.com/asuperaffiliate Adrienne Smith

    Boy, you’re right about that Dino. Another reason I stay away from the topic of politics or religion. I like people way too much to go head to head with them on an opinion NO one will waver on.

    I do go out of my way to thank my visitors that leave me comments. But I will also add that I recently had my first “nasty” comment. The lady had downloaded my free reports and had a problem with one of the the files. Now the smart thing would have been to hit the reply on the email she received and just send me a response but instead, she went round and round and round until she was so frustrated that she left me that comment. I approved it because I wanted people to also see that I’m not fake hiding behind some computer. I went out of my way to help her and she ended up apologizing to me. People have bad days, they get frustrated and ticked off. That was one of her days! But she did come back and leave another comment so my visitors would see that I go above and beyond to make things right.

    Comments, good or bad, should be addressed appropriately and we also have to realize that we can’t please everyone all of the time. Thanks for this Dino and hope the barbecue was good!!!

    Adrienne

  • http://www.thelasthonestguy.com The Last Honest Guy

    I generally do talk about religion, money and politics with people who are my friends or pretend to be my friends. I figure that by being honest and true to myself I will filter out the fakes and only keep people who truly like me for who I am. I really don’t have room for people who only pretend to like you just because they want something out of you.

    One thing is for sure, I do draw the line with people I do business with or who might potentially become clients. It’s just not smart to jeopardize loosing money over a simple difference of opinion.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      You’re a special breed, honest guy…you are a special breed :-)

  • http://www.expatlifecoach.com/blog John Falchetto

    Dino, positive comments? Well where should I start first great point about politics and religion. It brings nothing to the conversation, you end up making enemies and everyone keeps a bitter taste in their mouth.

    I absolutely agree with you about not raining on someone’s parade, especially when there is food involved. Now bad comments as long as they are constructive criticism are great in my book. When they become personal and besides the point (as they often do when we discuss religion/politics) then yes they have no place online.

    My 2 cents. Cheers Dino

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      What can I see except I agree. There are certainly negative comments and then there are negative comments. And I hate negative comments, but I love negative comments.

      #FollowThatLogic lol

  • http://www.best-web-hosting-companies.com/ Kavya Hari

    Initially, you have to give response to all the commentators on the blog. Off course, you are doing now, but this point is mentioning about all the blogger. Thanks a lot for preferring this topic on here :)

  • http://www.slymarketing.com Jens P. Berget

    Hi Dino,

    Your posts makes me think about my novel. I have only one reader so far, that’s because I have only given the manuscript to one person. Now, she’s in my house, reading my work, and I am looking for a comment (or as many as possible).

    But, I am not looking for sarcasm or any negativity really. What I am actually looking for, are words like brilliant, awesome and amazing. Unless, the comments brings something to the table and helps me change for the better.

    When it comes to my blog, I love short positive feedback, and I always thank everyone. I believe it’s very important to do this. Tell them you appreciate it, don’t make them feel like they have left a comment and that you really don’t care about it (because that’s what a comment without a reply really is – at least to me).

    By the way, awesome post :)

    – Jens

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hey Jens…

      You know…depending on the maturity level of one’s work, diff type of commentating is necessary.

      When your baby is new, it needs nurturing. It would be detrimental to the baby if all the comments were negative. It wouldnt allow the baby to realize its full potential.

      When the baby is out in the world, making waves of its own, it will receive all types of comments (and more), which is fine…these are needed to keep the baby grounded and focused.

      I hope my weak analogy makes sense to you….

      btw, I have a post coming out on thursday about unexplored avenues of content distribution. Something to keep in mind perhaps for when your baby is ready to reveal itself to the world :-)

      • http://www.slymarketing.com Jens P. Berget

        Your analogy makes a lot of sense, and I am looking forward to your post on thursday.

        Thanks a lot.

  • http://twitter.com/LeoWid Leo Widrich

    Dino, I am back after depriving you of comments for a few week, really sorry for that dude. However this post again shows me I have to come back commenting more regularly.

    Since I have been writing a lot recently your post is extremely useful for me. Not letting the praise blow-up your head until it bursts is really important I think. Most of the time this is not really because of you, but because of either the blog you are writing on or because people are trying to be polite.

    Many thanks for reinforcing that man, seriously a very important lesson. Let me throw this in my Buffer.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Thnx Leo…always great to hear from you. Rock on dude :-)

  • http://twitter.com/janetcallaway Janet Callaway

    Dino, aloha. Whether or not your head swells up over comments, it is important to thank your readers because they took the time to come to your blog and to leave you a comment. As you know, there are lots of other blogs they could be reading instead (of course, if they are your readers they are intelligent enough to always allow time to read yours) and there are lots of people who don’t take/don’t make/don’t have the time to leave a comment. Those who do most definitely should be thanked.

    Most of your readers, I would imagine, Dino, either share a similar point of view or enjoy your amazing rants whether or not they agree with your stance. You have a rare ability to educate, entertain and engage in a post. Dino, I believe people oftentimes are appreciating you the communicator rather your content.

    To me, Dino, your posts are a must read because they make me smile, shake my head and stir up the old brain cells. Take care, my friend, and enjoy a fabulous day. Aloha. Janet

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      See what I mean…now after reading your comment I think Im “all that and a bag of chips on the side” lol

  • Taming Rover

    Well Dino, I think the fundamental difference between the two scenarios is that if your with friends and decide to take the stance of politely smiling and nodding because your not really into what’s being said, or you just don’t want to argue… (or you just don’t give a rat’s ass) Then you are accepting a passive roll, one in which you find yourself in a situation that you may or may not have meant to be in (most likely not if your just putting up with your friends bullsh*t) but none the less are now somewhat, for lack of a better word “stuck” in, until the talker looses interest (Which they usually don’t if they are a real talker) or until you find a convenient and equally polite way to weasel your way out of it.

    The difference is that when someone comments on your blog it’s a 100% active roll, one in which they have read your post, have felt that something inspired them, and want to give kudos. It’s someone who has taken time out of their day to click the post comment button, think of a response generated from a feeling of connectedness to something or another you’ve said, and taken matters into their own hands to share with you the feeling of gratitude etc you have evoked (assuming we are talking about positive comments here)

    So, I would say, take positive feedback as it is, appreciate the positive commenters for what they are, not passive onlookers with a far off blank gaze, but people who actively say: “F*ck yeah man! good on ya!”

    Therefore I applaud your humility in the face of pride…
    but don’t get all puffed up about it…
    ;o)

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hey Rover, you are right about people taking active role and commenting on the site. After all, only a very small percentage of visitors actually leave a trail crumb where they visit. And I love those that do :-)

  • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

    Man, you are great – a one of a kind – too cool for school and just plain rockin’ Dino!!!!

    😛

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Thats what my mama always told me…and I believe her, she is impartial after all :-)

  • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

    So, did your head swell up???

    Haha!

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      lol….totally :-)

  • KamakshiSri

    No, I am not going to put anything that adds to your pride, But would not shrink back from saying you are pretty close to the truth.

    But I think that It is not always true that positive comments add to your pride. In may cases, it comes up with the idea of encouraging the blogger for making more good and better posts.

    People easily agree to whatever you say when they have vacant minds. There are many sensible people who may consent with you. In that case, it should be granted that you have done a good job, despite any negative comment.

    I visit blogs because I love reading. I love visiting blogs because I love reading and commenting on them. I have so far never created a blog but I keep moving obtaining views on various topics and posting my foolish views on them too. The only thing is that I enjoy reading and understanding things which I may not be knowing.

    I have always felt every piece containing a moral in it.

    Knowledge is what I seek and it has no boundaries.

    I am most impressed by honest writings.

    Professional writings are for bloggers only not for a tide like me who has no schedule of visiting a blog.

  • http://nittygriddy.com/ Ingrid Abboud

    Money, Religion, Politics? Gosh, who wants to talk about those when you can blog about bloggers who blog about blogging or blogs that blog about other blogs that blog better…I could go on you know?! hahahaha
    My aim was to confuse your head and not swell it. Did I succeed?

    In case I did – I’m gonna’ feel bad so I will say thank you and I agree – not because I have to and that I’m passive about comments. Trust me – had you written something I disagreed with – I’d have no problem letting you know. But I believe “thank you” goes a long way. Heck, I wrote an entire post on just that not too long ago haha.

    Okay – now I’ve inflated your head a bit. See I’ve balanced things out again ;).

    Short and sweet Dino. Nicely done as always.
    Cheers my friend.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      LMAO…falling over laughing at your “blog about bloggers who blog about blogging or blogs that blog about other blogs that blog better”

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  • http://twitter.com/girlygrizzly Amber-Lee

    oh Please. Your head? I DON’T think so! LOL. Good point though. One would think, you know this, but remembering that these are “relationships” and not just random words tapped out on a machine, help too.

    Just so you know, my personal choice is to keep my mouth SHUT….unless some ding-dong needs a hairy-eye-ball, of course. But commenting, well, I’d rather have someone talk straight to me, really. I don’t need a friend that agrees with me, I want someone who’ll tell me the truth.

    Wouldn’t it be the same, for a blogger? (it’s what I want to be when I grow up) Someone that wants to inform, share, enlighten, possibly teach, or just have some conversations.. geeze- it would be easier to say what you are thinking.  Unless there is nothing behind it, except for your overwhelming need to spout off about something you know nothing about.
    I like this one! (really I do!) Reminders, reminders.
    ~Amber-Lee

  • http://vizsource.info/ Kim Davies

    Hey, Dino.

    Cool post as usual. :) And I agree, saying thank you is always the best way to handle positive comments. In fact, it is the best response we can say to just about anything. 

    I hope with all the positive comments here, we can still recognize you with your head all swollen up. :)

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      haha..thnx Kim…lets hope Im still as handsome as ever even with my head swollen lol

      • http://vizsource.info/ Kim Davies

        Hmmm…show us a picture and we’ll tell you. 😀