5 Things You Should Do To Lose Your Blogging Virginity Like a Slut

In the age of choc-o-block mediocre blog(s) that no one reads, and the emergence of A list bloggers with book deals, it can be a difficult decision to decide to launch a new blog into an over-saturated market.

And harder still if you’re a total tech newbie? A Twitter ignoramus, and wouldn’t know CSS or HTML from a Chinese fast-food menu. Well then, you’re seriously screwed.

With all those odds stacked against you, it’s easy to understand why many people remain observers.

You’re in the stalls and watching the game, but never on the pitch.

On a practical level, the entry to market (the blogosphere) can seam daunting. A technological whirlwind. It can be hard even knowing where start.

And on an emotional level, the fear of epic failure can leave you paralyzed. Especially, if you have chosen a niche that you are passionate about and committed to.

Really smart bloggers always choose a niche they’re passionate about if they value their sanity… or so I I’ve heard.

Procrastination & the Art of Really Slow Learning

So you wait. And you consume and you consume, clicking on links and looking for new tweeps to follow like some deranged lunatic.

You write lists and do research, and think up catchy post titles.

You do awful sketches of what you would like your home page to look like, and spend hours carefully examining the blogs your love and respect, looking for all the best elements you can pilfer, so your blog can be really hot stuff.

Then finally -if you’re one of the lucky ones- you have a light bulb moment, a real road to Damascus experience, and you realize that the only thing holding you back is YOU. You and…

Double-Sized Serving of FEAR and EGO

FEAR: That you will create and work for months, maybe years, on yet another invisible blog that no one reads, comments on, or buys anything from.

EGO: That you -this competent, witty, writer, who has insight, a point of view and valuable ways in which you can help others- will not be acknowledged, appreciated and at some stage paid or at least applauded.

So what really happens when you hit this fork in the road?

Well what I have since discovered after doing and experiencing all of the above is this.

You Can Either Shit or Get Off the Pot

Yes I said it. Either get started, or go and use your time doing something far more likely to put the extra dinars, dollars or pence in your pocket.

This race is not won by the supremely clever; its won by the swift and those who work with what they’ve got.

If your goal is to launch and grow a successful blog which over time generates a solid income and after 6 months you still don’t have 1 web post…well let’s be straight here, your no longer in the learning stage, you’re in the wasting time stage.

Here are 5 things you should know, and 5 things you should do, to finally get in the Game.

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD KNOW

1. Every successful blogger started somewhere.

Not all have computer science or graphic design degrees. Some knew nothing, just like you, but they learned as they went along. The best time to make your blogging mistakes is when you’re still invisible.

2. It’s very admirable to want to know how to do everything yourself.

Alas, you are not superman. If you wait until you know everything about everything, BEFORE you start, you will never start. The blogsphere is always progressing, there will always be something new to learn or improve on. If you can afford it, outsource what you can’t do yourself, its nothing to be ashamed off.

3. Every one of us suffers from an attack of fear or ego-itis from time to time.

Most A- list bloggers are afraid that one day they will screw up monumentally, there will be a mass RSS exodus and they will no longer be relevant. However fear and ego drives them forward, it doesn’t hold them back.

4. Whoever told you this was passive income was lying.

Many of us dream of having 20k subs, products flying through our e-shops, affiliate links pinging left right and centre, speaking engagements, books, all spawned from this little baby that we created.

Yet how many of us relish the idea of replying individually to 108 post comment on 3 posts per week, whilst tweeting, answering emails, creating products, talking to journalists, and God knows whatever else. All whilst CONTINUING to produce credible valuable content on the regular.

Some people may make this look easy but it’s not. Far from being passive income, blogging with benefits, is very much ‘active’ income. This will take work.

5. With great power comes great responsibility.

Being the figure-head behind a super successful blog, is much like being the CEO of a multinational.

When you are finally the  leader of your ‘small army’, to some degree creativity and autonomy dies.

You must lead the troops. People will have high hopes and great expectations, and at some stage you may have to choose between playing it safe and holding up the status quo or really being an innovator and hoping for the best. Unfortunately (if your lucky) this comes with the job.

If all that hasn’t scared you half to death…

5 THINGS YOU SHOULD DO

1. If you don’t have the cash to hire a web designer, suck it up and use a standard template.

Sex–it-up as best you can, then upgrade latter. A blog that can be improved is better than no blog at all.

2. Stop consuming every day and start WRITING every day.

Granted, reading other blogs can give you inspiration, but if you need to read constantly for inspiration at this stage, you’re in trouble. You should be high off ideas.Homer gets online payday loans at penalty for a the great Sugar Shane Mosley. Payday Loans Online Fannie had an explicit guarantee from the government ?150m in the Shop Safe 5 payday loans online. WRITE, WRITE, WRITE. Right?

3. Structure your learning.

No doubt you have a list of things you would like to become more knowledgeable about. Set yourself a schedule of learning in order of importance.

If you’re a new blogger you would be better off learning effective link building, than how to launch your first an e-book? I’m just saying.

4. Stop being a passive observer and join the party.

It can be scary to join the conversation on Twitter, in a comment stream, or with the blog author for the first time. But they’re just people like us, and this interaction is part of what they do. Don’t be a pain in the arse, but be present.

5. Stop waiting for a Christmas card from…

……….. insert name here, and get on the radar of much smaller bloggers in your niche, the ones with only 12 retweets but some really epic, thought provoking content.

Make friends with the bloggers who do not yet have to play it safe and see what collaborations can be had.

This is a Time to Have Fun

Fear and ego can leave so many of us on the bench. The trick is to recognize what it is that is holding you back and work out a strategy to get past it. So here is my advice to you.

Go pop that blogging cherry like the blogging slut you know you can be.

And if you’re already on your blogging journey, share with us YOUR sticking point and tell us how YOU got past it?

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Stacey Herbert

Stacey Herbert is the Managing Editor here at DIY Blogger NET. She is also a thinker, schemer, detail driven dream chaser, the brains and the smile behind mylifestylemax.com. If you’re in search of a blog-less-ordinary, her's is the place to be.

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  • http://www.experiate.net Paul Flanigan

    I’m not sure many could pull off the analogy you did with relating blogging to sluttiness? or Slutting? Hm. Too funny.

    I’ve been at this for two years, traffic is meh, I’m still trying to find my niche. It’s not easy. But I have picked up the frequency with my blogging, publishing almost every day during the week, and the results are starting to show.

    Good points all around, Dino, you slut.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Thnx Paul..Id love to take the credit but this is written by none other than the venerable Stacey Herbert. (see author box.) She is a very edgy and up and coming writer and Im stoked to have her on my blog.

      • http://www.experiate.net Paul Flanigan

        Oh for cryin’ out loud. I read it and jumped right down to comments. UGH! My bad. Stacey, I owe you one! Come post on my site!

        Same goes for you, Dino. Guest posts all around!

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hey Dino, people think your slutty, I love it : )

      Hi Paul, I know slutty-ness and blogging is rather a tenuous link, but the idea was fun. How do you manage to post almost every day, Share your skills with me. I’m a little disorganised over here!

      It’s interesting that you say after two years you are still trying to find your niche, I’m having to continuously remind myself of this when I’m drafting posts..otherwise I tend to loose the plot a little. Thanks for commenting

      • http://www.experiate.net Paul Flanigan

        Dino/Stacey – After reading, I’m going to. . . DAH DUM . . write a blog post about this for Monday. I think it would be a great thing to share out how I do this and what’s not working. Check my blog Monday. http://www.experiate.net

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          Awesome Paul look forward to reading it, will swing by your blog and get some tips

  • http://twitter.com/bdorman264 Bill Dorman

    Ok, ok I’m the poster child for this; I didn’t know all my whining, procrastination and my social media doofery was going to inspire you…………………..no, I’m not naive enough to think this was about me, but really it is exactly me.

    I always figured if I set the bar low enough I would never be disappointed…………:).

    You might say ‘what’s the point’, but I’m not looking to monetize my efforts. I’m ok if I can just hang around with you guys. But if I’m hangin’ I want to be playin’ too and I can only play the social media dunce card so many times.

    I think because I am taking it slow and easy I still haven’t found my passion that I would build a blog around. Yes, probably doomed for failure but see paragraph two. I’m well read and can converse on a multitude of topics and passionate about some, but will just have to see how it develops.

    Good stuff and thanks for calling me out in an indirect way…….I want to be like you when I grow up……..

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      haha..another one bites the dust. I think I need to make that author box more prominent. This article is the handy work of Stacey Herbert. See above. And btw… I KNEW this would hit home for a lot of people :-)

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Bill, you and me both, it’s taken me a while to realise my intentions with my site. I sat on it for ages, and did all of the above. It was from watching guys like Dino and other cool peeps on the net, just do their thing and learn along the way that really encouraged me to just go for it. I liked your ‘Twitter Ho’ post by the way

      I’m the ultimate social media doofus, lol

  • http://twitter.com/jamidix Jami Dix

    LOVE this…this is the stuff that pushes me to keep writing. I never in a million years thought I would start a blog, but I did and I love it. So-thanks Stacey:) (Oh, and I love your use of “shit or get off the pot”.) Have a great day!!

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Jamie…I’m glad you where encouraged by this post. I’m the same as you, never in a million years did I think I would start a blog. Everyone said how easy it was, simple, 1-2-3, but for me it was hard going. Glad you got Started.. As for “shit or get off the pot”…I remember hearing this quite a lot when I was a child…I must have been a master procrastinator from a young age :)

      All the best with your blog and thanks for commenting

  • http://www.itinerantentrepreneur.com/journal/ Robert Dempsey

    Hello Stacey! This was a great post, and thanks for cussing. Of course you are here and we can fucking cuss! HAHAHA. Anyhow…

    I had the great fortune of totally digging my first business into a 30k deep hole when I was 22. After that it’s all peaches and cream. What I learned is that you need to learn as much as you can as fast as you can as you move ahead as fast as you can. And be smart before spending money. Having said that…

    If anyone starts anything online to make money they are in business, and need to act accordingly. That means massive action, marketing, selling, networking, etc. Do you need to know how to do all of that right from the get go? Thankfully no. After you learn one thing it leads to more questions and more questions. Being in business is a continuous learning path, so accept it and keep going.

    I keep myself too busy to get stuck. When my head starts trying to fuck with me and talk smack I tell it to shut up, drink more coffee, and get busy. There’s only two directions you go in, and I’m not going back.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      lol, Hi Robert, sometimes I worry about the amount of foul language that comes out of my mouth, seriously you should see the first edit..most of the f-bombs get edited out. My problem is I write how I speak.

      That’s such a good point you make about “if anyone starts selling anything online to make money they are in business and need to act accordingly”. I think some people start a blog with the idea of being webfamous, and end up making money. Whilst other start blogging as a business and treat is as much. I don’t totally know what direction to take. I still feel chuffed when I see one more person has read it, lol.

      30k at 22 eh..I’m sure learning that lesson young taught you an awful lot. I’m with you on move onwards and upwards though

      Thanks for the comment

  • http://www.waynejohn.com/ Wayne John

    Oh so relevant to me right now. I’ve been blogging for 3 years now, and I’m still waiting for that break-out moment where I find my direction, I find my writing inspiration and bring something that I believe is worthy to the table.

    In the meantime, I’m quite happy being me, with all my goofs and foul ups.

    Wonderful article Stacey, and wonderful to find you. Big cheers!

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Wayne, it’s really refreshing to hear seasoned bloggers say that even after a few years at it, they still haven’t perfected the formula yet, and still goof up from time to time. That can be the biggest fear I find when your starting out..just actually showing someone what you have been working at. Glad you could relate, cheers for the comment

  • http://www.ifightdinosaurs.com Pat Kent

    Haha, awesome stuff! I can’t believe I’m just getting to this post now, I think this could have made my morning much better! I think I need to be much more slutty with my blog. No one likes a prude

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Pat, Get your inner slut on, your blog will thank you for it tremendously, Prudes are so like 80′s, : )
      Thanks for commenting

  • Anonymous

    I feel like I need a cigarette after reading this.

    Yeah, just write, baby. And when you’re done, write some more.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Dave, feel free to light up, then get back to writing, lol. I have been trying to build up a stockpile of posts for my blog, so that I always have something. On reading back, some of my drafts are totally tragic, but I figure at least I have something to work with. Do you write to a schedule or just as and when?

      Thanks for your comment, Stacey

      • Anonymous

        Hold it in, now exhale…

        I try to write daily, first thing in the morning. OR when the mood
        strikes in the evening when I see something thought-provoking. And yeah,
        I’ve got a ton of drafts sitting there — one, for instance, on what the
        sport of curling can teach us about marketing. That one needs to wait
        for the 2014 Olympics.

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          lmao, you actually made me chuckle. We have Olympics fever over here in London right now. Glad to know I’m not to only one with a ton on ropey posts, just waiting for the right moment to be released on the unsuspecting public.

          I have always really enjoyed it though when writers find away of linking totally unrelated topics in a way that makes you go, “oh yeahhhhhhhhhhh, he’s got a point there”

          I need at least 2 cups of coffee, before I am able to write one coherent sentence, at least 2!

  • http://twitter.com/mario_monk Mario Monk

    About “Whoever told you this was passive income was lying”

    I want to add my 2 cents. No one can be a just blogger. You have to be active in what you blog about. No matter if your blog topic is your hobby or job – you have to grow in it.

    So this makes it impossible to be passive. Even if your blog survives with you writing one post per week – you have to spend the remaining time growing your experience in the field.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Mario, thanks for confirming this, I was getting a little wary of hearing about all this “passive income” bloggers are making. I’ve since come to find there is nothing passive about it, the people I have seen succeeding online work incredibly hard. Can you direct me to some good blogs that thrive on 1 post a week…I’d be really interested to see the approach they take .

      • http://twitter.com/mario_monk Mario Monk

        Hi, thanks!

        I did add that utopian “Even if” in the begionning of that sentence. I don’t know any successful blogs posting only one a week.

        As far as I know Darren Rowse of problogger is posting himself only once a week. All the other daily posts are done by guests, lol :D But his blog was successful first – and only the guests started to apply. Besides that, Darren is far from being passive in blogging.

        So, nope – I don’t know any passive successful bloggers.

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          I don’t know any passive successful bloggers either, but a few hard grafting, innovative people, breaking a sweat on the daily to get it done.

          If Darren Rowse only posts once a week himself, he’s a very lucky and no doubt an extremely busy man

          Love the word Utopian, going to try and find away to fit it into my next post…thanks for the inspiration, and comment Mario

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          Hey Mario,I responded to you a while back, but just checked here and noticed,its not showing. My bad , it was just something along the lines of Darren Rowse being a smart and busy sob, if he only has to post once a week. I don’t know any passive online bloggers/earners either: )

          • http://twitter.com/mario_monk Mario Monk

            It is showing to me at this point.

            Here’s a thought. Any business (and blogging is a business) may be built up to the stage, when owner can go passive and enjoy his bank account. But up to that point it still requires hard, hard work.

  • http://www.getting-unstuck.com/http://fearlessdating.wordpress.com/http://www.getting-unstuck.com/ riley Harrison

    Hi Stacey,
    That was great. The takeaway for me is having the discipline to take a structured approach to learning. It is so easy to wander around the internet and not learn a damn thing nor make any progress towards your goals.
    Riley

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      You and me both Riley. I have had the luxury of having a lot of time to dedicate to learning over the last few months, but for the most part I have totally wasted it due to my chaotic approach. I want to know everything..TODAY. But it’s really not possible. I now have a learning list..when something new that I am supposed to know or be doing, comes onto my horizon, it gets added to the learning list. Needless to say, it’s a bloody long list. @robert makes a good point where “he says you need to learn as much as you can, as fast as you can”,

  • http://www.webguide4u.com Vivek Parmar

    Agree with you every successful blogger starts from somewhere. Blogging needs dedication and consistency and without this no one can succeed in it.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Vivek, silently blog stalking successful bloggers has slowed me down no end. It’s easier and far less time consuming to just become the best at being uniquely you. Dedication and consistency are what really matters, your spot on!

  • http://twitter.com/janetcallaway Janet Callaway

    Dino, aloha. Wish you would tell us how you really feel. In my opinion, the toughest part is getting started. At some point you just have to let go of the side of the pool and start swimming.

    As very much a newbie to blogging, I know it does get better and easier. Fortunately, there are so many sharing bloggers who give hints, tips and advice that it is likely having a coach available 24/7.

    If bloggers don’t know or aren’t passionate about their niches, then they have set themselves up for an increasingly difficult challenge as they run out of ideas and interests.

    Once again, thank you for the lesson in creating eye-catching, thought provoking headlines. Aloha. Janet

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hi Janet…I wish I could take the credit but today belongs to my esteemed guest writer Stacey Herbert (see author box above).

      Btw…Im working on getting your article placed on a blog where it will be very happy :-)

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Janet, your right some times you do have to just let go of the side of the pool and start swimming, and its great that there are sharing, helpful people to help keep you afloat.

      I’m a newbie to, but before I started my blog, I sketched out ideas for at least 10 articles for each topic I cover. Some of the ideas seriously sucked in hindsight, but it was great to know I had a wealth of ideas to get me started

      Good luck on your sojourn into the blogging world

  • http://clevermarketer.com Heather C Stephens

    Hi Stacey!

    I will never forget when I finally “got it” through my dense skull that the only thing standing in my way was me. Can I even count how much money I spent on products, (hoping) to learn how to get online. Yikes…I don’t want to know.

    I spent so much time getting read to get ready that it’s no wonder I’m now showing a few strands of gray in my hair in my profile pics now.

    It took a conversation with my mom, where I was complaining, yet once again, about how I know I could be successful at this and her two word reply was all I needed. “Prove It!”

    So that’s where I am, now 7 months later, leading 40 other bloggers through my first “Prove It!” blog challenge, where we’re all writing daily, connecting with each other, and making things happen. I’ve grown more in the last 7 months, when I finally decided to get over myself and get busy doing something than I ever could have imagined.

    It takes sweat equity to build anything worth while online…and my goodness…that means you’ve got to get into action and work up a sweat!

    Your post struck a nerve (can you tell?)

    Thanks, Heather

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hey Heather…great to see you here :-)

      Stacey’s post does strike a nerve indeed. I imagine there are countless wannabees out there biding their time and biting their nails all the while standing in their own way.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Wow heather…PROVE IT. Those are words that I need to tell myself on a daily basis :) It can be so very easy to get bogged down with all that you don’t know, that you forget to work with what you DO know. It sounds like you have a great network keeping you accountable now. That’s my next step

      Glad it the post hit home

      stacey

  • http://twitter.com/LeoWid Leon Widrich

    Dude, great post. I was a little sceptical about the post title as if it was only an attention grabber, but god did you do a great job with this one. And now I also understand why using such dubious language so much makes sense here. Getting us off our asses needs something different than the usual chatter on blog “get started now” and stuff.

    Many thanks for the reminder Dino. Oh and great one with the “screw the big guys, they won’t send you a Christmas card this year or next one!” Starting out with people the same blog size as you makes much more sense.

    Awesome read. –> In the Buffer it goes.

    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Hey Leo…I think you will be even more impressed when I tell you that my blog has been taken over by a talented, vivacious and electrifying Stacey Herbert. See author box above.

      She sent it in and I knew this post was gold. The comments and the traffic only confirmed it.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Leon, remember me, we spoke on twitter a while back. The headline was definitely sensationalist, and just within the borders of decency, perfect, lol

      Glad you enjoyed the post

      Who have your struck of your Christmas card list ?

  • http://sanjeev-sharma.com Sanjeev Sharma

    If you want to reach somewhere you need to start. We all know this simple timeless truth and yet oftentimes we are afraid to take that plunge. And sometimes, when we do, we do it in starts and fits.

    This is exactly how I too started – I got my domain name and reading stuff and even hosting account almost 2 years back. Then I wrote some articles off and on. The niche I started on was internet marketing!! And after sometime I realized that I could not write anything because I did not know anything. So I stopped. Even today when I check Alexa and Google webmaster, I find some of the pages indexed by them are the old ones which do not even exist because I deleted them!

    I started a couple of other blogs too and still maintain them and have good solid content in them. The reason is that I believed in the niches and was able to write on the topics. But the current blog is the one that i am passionate about and do try and write – not yet regularly, but still do. One reason is that i am a part time blogger. Have a full time business and try to find time to do online writing. Hopefully some day i’ll be able to devote full time to this.

    In any case, I do agree that if you wanna blog you gotta start and start sooner. All the management jargons like certification etc will not work in the blogging world – there are things that you can only learn while on the job.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Sanjeev. I think you have achieved such a lot, considering you still run a full time business. Until this year, alexa seo, google analytics. None of those things even existed in my world. I like your point that all the management jargons wont help in the blogging world. I think some times people like to hear the message said simply

      Thanks for your thoughtful comment

  • Rick Drescher

    This was great entry. I am just starting my blog and my biggest worry is content. I have several interest and have been thinking that I need a blog for each. I use a Mac template as that is were my website is located and it is easy to produce. I am always open to any suggestions because lord knows I know very little.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Rick, you and me both, but if you take the time to hang around this site, and soak up some of the information that gets recommended here. you’ll learn pretty quickly-or slowly :)

      Why don’t you start out my blogging about the topic you have the most interest in,and take it from there

      Good luck

  • http://www.realityburst.com Eugene

    Well, I was going to actually read this post. But then I got stuck staring at that picture at the top and didn’t make it to the content.

    Seriously though, I can’t agree with you any more. I posted something similar on the topic last week. There are people that just keep accumulating information. And this over-accumulation and desire to know everything hinders people from making progress. It FEELS like you’re making progress because you’re taking some sort of action (in the form of reading or buying a new product) but it isn’t really getting you anywhere.

    And this just got me thinking of a new post…perfect :)

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Eugene, I was ready something really poignant about consumption and the sneaky way its becomes so prevalent in all of our lives today.

      Penelope cruz, is looking pretty smoking hot in the pic :)

      • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

        Thats Penelope Cruz? Get outtahere..I didnt even recognize her…

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          I bet…that should be a screen saver or something, lol

  • http://www.kimberlygauthier.com Kimberly

    Great piece, Dino – I spend some time on a blogger site/forum and constantly read posts asking how to get more subscribers/more comments/etc – most people want an easy answer and I was one of those people a year ago. Once I figured out what the hell I was doing with my site who I was trying to reach, the content part came easily and people are actually checking in with my site, emailing me, commenting, retweeting.

    It takes time, it takes work. I carry around a spiral so that I can jot down a blog post when the idea hits. I try to keep at least 5 blog posts ahead to keep from going stale.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Kimberly, I see we can the same tactic, of trying to stay ahead of ourselves with the blog posts. But your right it takes time and work, probably more than many of us imagine when we first get started.

      stacey

  • http://www.newbielifeline.com Sheila Atwood

    Stacy,

    Okay, you said it and you said it very well indeed. It is a tough game but one that is worth playing and standing in bleachers does not get the job done.

    I was not afraid of joining the ranks, I think my down fall came in thinking I had to “write the ebook first.” Having a learning list of what is most important sure would have helped.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Sheila, I here you on that one. many of us see what other blog owners are doing and think we need to be replicating that, but we forget that have been at it 3 years. Keep working hard on your blog, that’s the only way

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  • http://alidavies.com/ Ali Davies

    My blog is one year old. We are past the “giving birth” and looking after the baby stage and into the terrible twos!! It has been a steep but fun learning curve. I think it became much easier when I let go of it needing to be “right” and just got stuck in to just doing it and being OK with the fact that I was learning. I am at peace with the fact that it is and always will be an evolving work in progress,

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Ali, I really like your analogy about your blog. How long did it take you get to place of acceptance with your blog, not focused on perfection, but getting it done, and learning as much as you can?

      I just swung by your blog, your doing great stuff,

      • http://alidavies.com/ Ali Davies

        Stacey, thanks for your comment about my blog. Appreciate you dropping by and taking a look.

        I would say it probably took me about 6 months to get to the stage of just going with the flow more. And then I changed the focus of the blog which has meant some change too. So this year, year two, is really going to be about building on the foundations and learnings of the first year.

        • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

          You’ve inspired me that eventually it all comes to get Ali, even if its not our version of perfect

          Thank you

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  • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

    This is a great post Dino. You said it – get started already! Nothing will happen while sitting on the sidelines. You need to jump in and get your feet wet. The learning and growing part will happen by simply jumping in.

    What can you expect?

    Well, if you don’t take the leap, there certainly won’t be anything to gain. Once you’ve jumped in with both feet, you get out what you put in. Nothing worthwhile in life comes easy. It comes with tremendous effort and hard work. Without that, you won’t get much in return.

    The main thing is to take the leap man ; )

    Cheers Dino!

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Hi Mark, I couldn’t agree with you more, it just takes some of us longer to learn this than others.

      • http://markharai.com Mark Harai

        Stacey, no one has a harder head than me… I’m a bit slow, but making steady slow progress haha.

        Smiles : )

  • Anonymous

    Love it!

    Get on it already! yeah!

    I still run with what I have, and it’s far from being perfect, but it works so well I feel like laughing when I think about it. :-)

    Thanks for the post, Stacey!

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      No probs

      Please come and share with me what’s working so well….now I’m finally doing this..need help building a plan of action

  • http://twitter.com/ElisesReview Elise M

    This information is very ‘real’ and I like that. I’m tired of reading stuff that’s all like ‘YOU CAN DO IT AS LONG AS YOU BELIEVE IN YOURSELF AHHH.’ When I first got into this stuff, I read a book that was overly optimistic and basically told me that everything would fall into place if I just stuck with it. Not always true.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey

      Sometimes you have to know when your banging your head against a brick wall..to give up and move on. And sometimes you just need to get on..with it. “Believing” on it’s own.. doesn’t tend to make stuff happen. Thanks for the comment Elise

  • http://www.qspike.com Chris Tucker

    “Stop consuming and start writing every day” – so simple! Thanks for the kick in the pants:) That’s the perfect motivator for me today. So easy to spend too much time reading the “experts” and not sharing the value of our own insights. Thanks again!

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    • http://diyblogger.net/about Dino Dogan

      Assuming that your comment wasnt in jest, I would say politely to feel free to read other blogs. This one is 8 different kinds of impolite.

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  • http://www.best-web-hosting-companies.com/ Kavya Hari

    These 5 points would be more helpful for me to know about various information on here:-) Thanks a lot for written your post on here:)

  • http://www.hanelly.com hanelly

    Learn to give it up easily and your message will … spread more easily. No one can ever accuse you of not writing compelling headlines with powerful analogies. Nicely done, Dino.

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  • Al Smith

    Thanks Dino. Love the 5 tips. I am not a writer but I have the opprtunity to write an article for the Atl. Biz Chron. Time to get off the bench and into the game. I will continue to Listen, Observe and Learn from people like you, but I need to start expressing and writing, Right ? ha ! Thanks again for the encouragement ( Kick in the Ass ) Great Read.

    Al

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com stacey

      Hey Al really glad you enjoyed the post, and it galvanised you into action. Some kicks in the ass are the positive kind : )

      Stacey

  • Al Smith

    Oh yeah, I have seen Penelope look a lot better ! Sluttier ? No.

    • http://mylifestylemax.com Stacey Herbert

      Not personally, but I’m sure Javier Bardem has seen it all, lucky fella, lol

  • Dwmatty

    Stacey, you were talking to me when you wrote this, weren’t you? Because this is EXACTLY how I feel. Although I currently have a small personal blog that I’ve nursed along for two years now on Blogger, I’m very interested in moving to WordPress and starting one that is much more professional looking with better content. I’ve been reading all these “professional” blogs and taking in all the advice I can find. I think my mind is in overload mode.

    This may be the “post that broke the camels back”. I’m sure that once I get it going, there will be mistakes that loses some readers, but I suppose that everyone was there at some point in their blog career.

    Matty

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey Herbert

      Hi Matty. I’m so glad I caught this comment, I was just off to bed. It’s like 3am in London. If this post resonates with you then, I know exactly how you feel. You clearly have a passion for writing if you have nurtured your blogger blog for two years. WordPress is a little daunting when you first start, if you have never done anything like that before, but if I can do it, anyone can. The best bit of advice I could give you (even though I know you haven’t asked) is don’t obsess over the look as that can take up weeks. Don’t expect it to be perfect, and quit trying to learn everything at once. It’s impossible. I found your comment really touching,I hope the camels back broke, and you get your new and improved blog up and running. You may loose some readers..but hey you might gain some. Stay positive. Thanks for commenting. Stacey

  • http://www.thenerdynurse.com The Nerdy Nurse

    Rad rad post.
    little bit frisky and definitely entertaining.

    Although, personally I think I should get a paid gig just looking at Stumble Upon all day, but thats just me.

    • http://www.mylifestylemax.com Stacey Herbert

      Agreed Nerdy nurse, me too, lol

  • http://pmicomputersupplies.com Greg Bussmann

    This is insightful information, so much so, reading it feels a little like you have been privy to my inner thoughts. Thanks for articulating them and getting me thinking in the right direction.

  • http://twitter.com/cirklagirl Amy Putkonen

    I think if I only had one blog my whole life I would have been a millionaire by now! lol… I can definitely relate to this post. My blog is new and I write every day but just need to get out there and meet people. Pretty key. Nice to meet you. This is helpful.

  • http://mobilelifestyledesign.com John K

    Ouch..  Your 5 things hit me right between the eyes. Spot on but even I don’t always follow through with it. 

  • http://www.best-wedding-anniversary-gift-ideas.com Renee Michaels

    Whap! Ouch!  Eeeeeeek!! Oh me, oh my…right between the eyes & splat into my solar plexus. I stopped blogging, never really blogged, ’cause I was more worried about being “nice” or “right” or (fill-in) “______.” As my long-departed daddy said, “You can please some of the people some of the time but never everyone all the time, so get over it and live your life.” Thanx mucho for this plain talk post…much more effective than “50 Tips to Beat Writers Block” or “101 Topics to Blog About.”

  • http://twitter.com/weforgotyounot Betsy Cross

    HAHA!  Stacey! I should have known you’d written this! You just make me laugh.Great post. Thanks. Betsy.

  • kolchakpuggle

    “a total tech newbie? A Twitter ignoramus, and wouldn’t know CSS or HTML from a Chinese fast-food menu.”

    That is the perfect description of me 9 months ago. Of course, back then, I had *no idea* how much went into blogging. I thought it was going to be a fun little thing I did for half hour, a few times a week. Now I’m trying to learn all that I can and all that stuff that I thought I should know before I started? Well, it’s all come kind of naturally as the blog has grown and I have gotten deeper and deeper into the art of blogging. My sticking point right now? Figuring out how to make SEO work for me without losing my signature style. I’ll get there, I guess I just have to get a little sluttier first.

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    Write, Write ….. i will also post now more posts.

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  • http://twitter.com/jackdrsm Jack Durish

    I know HTML, Java, JavaScript, etc. and I wouldn’t waste my time building my own website/blog. I subscribed to the best host I could find and used one of their templates. I have better things to do with my time than showing off my computer expertise. I have stories to tell and tell them I will letting the computer gurus take care of the technical nonsense.

  • Myrna Greenhut

    Love your photo illustration. Is that really Penelope Cruz in her younger days?

    Thanks for your inspiration and hustle.  

    Hardly a virgin, but when you have been removed from the game for awhile, you feel like one again.

    Myrna Greenhut